I have also been looking for an answer to this question for a long time. The less we see the difference between ourselves and others, the better we are. Provided that we give others maximum freedom. Very often, people say that others are not indifferent to them and, on the basis of this non-indifference, they encroach on their freedom. This is not very good, I think.
But if you find the strength to give other people the greatest possible freedom and not see the difference between them and yourself, you are a very, very, very good person. I still can not do that. I am bad.